What is the concept of The Mirror?
As you know, a mirror reflects back to you what you see in it – your reflection. The world around you works in the same way – it is reflecting yourself back to you energetically.
You are the creator of your reality, and you do that by the state of mind (energy) that you are vibrating at. If you feel like crap one day, the world around you will continually reflect back crap. The good news is, at any point you are change the outside reality, by shifting your inside reality.
The people you meet, the circumstances and situations are all a part of where you are at within yourself. It will reflect the BEST parts, and the WORST parts of you. That is the hard truth.
For example, for a long time, I didn't love myself. I often shrunk myself, put my wants and needs aside for someone else. I didn't value myself... and that was reflected back to me in those around me NOT valuing me either.
Using Reality at the Mirror
My husband's addiction was his own set of issues... and I also attracted this outer reflection for a reason. There were things already inside of me that created this reflection in my reality:
Lack of self-love: This was reflected to me in the absence of love. The loss of love, feeling love, in our relationship. I hadn't loved myself, so I don't think I was being the most loving person towards him.
Lies: While he lied to me and manipulated so much of our reality - wasn't I lying to myself. I lied to myself in telling myself I wasn't loved, lovable, valuable, worth anything... I was telling myself that I was creating a good life. But the truth was, I was struggling, and I didn't feel like myself. The life I was living was a lie – because I was out of alignment with me. Every lie he created, was another manipulated reality... a reflection of the lie I had been living inside. Not seeing the full authentic reality.
Lack of worth: I didn't feel I was worthy of being loved or valued for who I was. I was just there working to make life happen, but not valuing who I was. In turn, I saw this reflection in my husband NOT valuing me. He found more value in another woman that me, who was there standing by his side.
These are just a few of the not so good reflections that were shown to me. I didn't always see them at first... I am especially stubborn, so I fought them hard.
When I learned how to use the mirror, I figured out how to change the reflection.
Use the Mirror for Guidance
When we look at ourselves in the mirror to get ready, we might see our hair or makeup or clothes need some adjusting. We adjust until we are happy with what we see. We can do the same with ourselves energetically.
When you witness something that doesn't feel good – explore what needs healing in you. For me, recently, I came down with a cold and an issue in my throat. I couldn't speak without coughing. My voice felt restricted in this. Energetically, I had been letting my voice be suppressed too. My husband wouldn't let me speak my voice, hear about the pain, or even hear about taking care of our kids... I felt UNHEARD.
I also hadn't been using my voice in my work. I wanted to, but the words and information felt stuck. I couldn't do it. And then, I decided I'm speaking the truth and I'm using my voice finally. The pain mattered, my life mattered, and I saw my value and worth because I exist here too. So I used my voice, despite the fear... acknowledge myself, my pain, my healing, my value and worth. Everything started flowing from that point... the words, the information started flowing to me and through me. I created a new reflection.
How Can You Change the Reflection?
When the mirror reflects back things we do not like, or trigger us, you can use the mirror as a useful tool to help yourself heal:
Become conscious and aware of the mirror - instead of reacting to the circumstances or situations, become aware of the discomfort. Before reacting, stop and reflect...
Acknowledge and identify what you are feeling - what came up in you? What caused it?
Identify what is really going on deeper inside of you - For example, if someone says they don't like your hair, and it bothers you so much you're obsessing over it, ask yourself why? What is going on deeper? Maybe it is because your mom never did your hair as a kid, and you always take pride in yourself now. Hearing someone not liking it hits that wound.
Heal at the root of it - In the example of being triggered of someone not liking your hair, you can go to the root (of the wound). Forgive your parent for not doing your hair as a kid. Maybe they were strained and stressed, doing the best on their journey. What matters now is you feeling good about you. Maybe now you try a new hairstyle, or go get your hair done. You are taking care of yourself now, Heal the wound by knowing you are now meeting your needs.
Repeat until the reflection changes - healing the root may take a bit of creating a new pattern, a new way of thinking... the key is to remain consistent in choosing to think differently. In choosing to become more aware of what you tell yourself when these wounds are healed. Your energy changes. Before you know it, you'll be walking down the street and getting compliments on your hair.
Recognize the Good Reflections, Too
As you have healed your traumas and wounds and gotten more and more in tune to your soul, your most authentic self. And, when you do that, your reality - the mirror - will be reflecting THAT back to you as well.
The mirror reflects your highest vibrational self, too
Allow yourself to take in the good reflections too. Again, being conscious and aware, as you raise your vibration, you will allow yourself to feel good. Take those small moments to celebrate and take all of it in when the mirror is reflecting your most authentic self back to you. It is even more important that focusing on any of the back.
You attract what and who you are. If you do not like the reflection, you can always change it.
Sending you love as your play with your reflection.
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